6.7.11

Is that Cup Half Empty or Half Full?

On Friday, May 27th, I called my mother just to say "hello."  Her birthday had been the day before and so we'd spoken then, but it's a usual habit for us to talk almost every day.  She sounded down and when I wanted to know why, she asked if I was in a quiet place where we could talk.  I was driving on an errand and had her on speaker-phone so I immediately pulled the car over.  She told me that she had cancer -- a very aggressive type.   I was (understandably) very upset.  To torture myself further I did research.  I found statistics.  I took notes. The cold, hard facts are as follows: even with aggressive treatment, this thing could go either way. 


There will always be things in our lives over which we have no control.  What we do have control over, however, is how we respond.  And so, the question is then, how does one respond to this type of revelation?



In this blog, I present to you my best self, but I have to admit, when the going gets tough, I am just as likely to channel Eeyore ("There are those who will wish you a good morning. If it is a good morning, which I doubt.") or Piglet ("Help, help," cried Piglet, "a Heffalump, a Horrible Heffalump!" and he scampered off as hard as he could, still crying out, "Help, help, a Herrible Hoffalump! Hoff, hoff, a Hellible Horralump! Holl, holl, a Hoffable Hellerump!")  

Responding in the fashion of Eeyore or Piglet is normal and human, but I've needed to go beyond those responses. So... I keep returning to the statistics.  When the odds are 50/50, it seems to me that one can look at the numbers and view them as a "cup half empty" or a "cup half full."

Through these past weeks my mother has been steadfastly maintaining a "cup half full" approach.  She came through surgery a few weeks ago with flying colors and she starts chemotherapy today.  She is strong, determined and has a lot of living to do.  So, I'm going to follow her example.  I've got a firm grip on my cup and am raising it to my perfect, beautiful mother in a toast to love, life, and good health.  And when I raise that cup, it's definitely half full.

15 comments:

  1. Sending you so much love (and an email later today, kids willing!).

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  2. Oh my dear. Thinking of your Mama and holding her in my thoughts. May grace, hope and positive energy carry you all through.

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  3. What a beautiful attitude you are adopting! I will raise my half full glass with you and send your family some positive vibes :)

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  4. Many hugs and positive vibes coming your way.

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  5. My cup is absolutely bubbling over with hope...my thoughts often wander to you and your mum ~ so nice to see her in pictures xx

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  6. Good thoughts coming your way and your mom's! I will keep you all in my prayers

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  7. Holding you both in my heart and sending you healing love from across the world.

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  8. I'm heartened by what you've written and I am sending good vibes and strength to you all.

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  9. I am sending prayers and lots of blessings your way. You couldnt have a better attitude and cup full of hope! I am sure that I can say we are there for you....even in you Eeyore moments!

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  10. May LOVE encircle you, your family, your mother, and be present with hope, help, healing. Prayers and blessings.

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  11. Thinking of you and sending hope and love. We'll catch up on Saturday if you're still available to play!
    Caroline

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  12. oh my. sending her and you and your family our very warmest thoughts for healing. i know what you mean about presennting one's 'best' self... was just thinking about that the past few days. hugs to you

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  13. Your mother seems like an incredible woman. I'm sending my best thoughts to all of you.

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  14. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sending good wishes your way. I'm glad you shared this on your blog so all of your readers can keep you in their thoughts. You're right, a lot of us DO use our blogs as a place to present our best selves, but sometimes even our best selves need help and we shouldn't hesitate to ask.

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  15. what a hard time you are going through. I'm sorry. I saw a thing on pinterest the other day, the glass is filled half with water and half with air so its all the way full!

    I hope all things work out for your and your family's good.

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