Two weeks ago a friend and her family experienced a sudden, unexpected and devastating loss. I wanted to reach out to her with words, but felt that anything I said would seem trite & meaningless in the wake of what she was experiencing. There is always the impulse to want to DO something to help, when truly, there is not much to do beyond being present and giving time and space to grieve. Friends set up a schedule to bring meals, and so I signed up; but my heart reached to do more.
Then I remembered an essay in a book by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. called My Grandfather's Blessings; in the essay, she discusses the work of an organization in Tacoma, Washington called BRIDGES which offers grief support for children. As part of their programs, each child and adult who comes in contact with services at BRIDGES could receive a small velvet or velour heart as "something tangible and comforting to hold on to." Dr. Remen describes the hand-sewn hearts in this way:
Small enough to be put in a little pocket and take to school to hold and rub, these soft little hearts give children permission to hold their own hearts tenderly and to grieve. Children carry them for as long as they need to, finding comfort in the softness when thoughts of their loss might otherwise overwhelm them.
And so I sewed three hearts -- one for my friend and one for each of her children.
If you would like to make a heart for someone you know, the instructions are simple: start by cutting a paper pattern in the shape of a heart, and then, using the pattern, cut out two hearts from a soft velvet or velour fabric.
Sew around the edges by hand or machine, leaving an opening of at least an inch. Use the opening to turn and stuff the heart, and then use small stitches to close.
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)
-- e. e. cummings
How interesting to read this today, sitting here, teary eyed after learning that a friend, who lost a teenager in a car accident four years ago, lost her 29 year old newly married son to what is believed to be meningitis last evening. I absolutely loved the book you mentioned, but had forgotten that part. Guess I better get busy. Thanks and blessings.
ReplyDeleteSo sweet. I made a wool felt heart for a little boy who was having a hard time with separation from his mommy. The little heart let him carry her where ever he went and because it was all wool it smelled like mom too.
ReplyDeleteThis makes me teary - what a lovely, thoughtful gift!
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful, thoughtful gift.
ReplyDeleteHave you heard of the mother bear project? each little knitted bear, made by volunteers, has a red felted heart sewn on to it before being shipped of to a child in need.
What a beautiful, heartfelt project.
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